“Quid pro Quo”: the motto of narcissists…

“The only reason people believe in an afterlife is because they are too narcissistic to imagine a world without them.” Woody Allen.

When we hear narcissist, we think of the typical characteristic elements: entitlement, cockiness and arrogance. However, narcissism is beyond having an exaggerated, superficial opinion about oneself. 

Narcissists are people who are in constant search for validation.

A simple compliment will not do for them. They need more than that.

Narcissists are confident individual persons, with a solid self-worth. External experiences drive them to feel superior about themselves.

Human beings always want to feel good about themselves but in the case of narcissists, they are constantly comparing themselves to others.

The motivational factor that drives narcissists is intense, deep fear, which causes them to overreact internally, as well as externally. They fear not being worthy, lovable or good enough for others.

They display different levels of emotions because of their fragile ego. Their ego is always affected by stress, manifestations and obligations in the society.

Narcissists cover up their intense emotions with the shield of anger.

These types of individuals use anger as a source of coping mechanism. They protect their emotions and vulnerability with deliberate fits of rage.

Narcissists follow their own rules.

Narcissists are defined by their own set of rules and if people in their lives do not abide by them, they get mad or upset. It is because these people feel low self-worth if their rules are not followed by others.

Narcissists are truly about “All-or-Nothing”, “Black-or-White”, “Good-or-Bad”.

One strategy is to avoid them. They say that the only way to win is not to play.

We never have to extend credit to, or accept promises from narcissists. As soon as they get what they want, they will be on to the next thing, forgetting whatever they said they would do for us. Sometimes they make promises they do not intend to keep, but often, they merely forget. Therefore, we need to make sure we get what they have promised before we give them what they want. Narcissists will respect us for it.

With them always it is all about “quid pro quo”